24 ways to meet mom friends no matter where you liveJul 30, 2019
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This post will benefit you if you're having a hard time finding other women that "get" the phase of motherhood you're in.
Let's just jump right into this topic because it’s a tough one. I want to be loud and clear, so listen up! If you are struggling to meet mom friends, you are not alone! It's one of the top issues moms face. Whether you're new to an area or the only one in your group that's a mom, making friends that are experiencing what you are is hard.
But I'm telling you when you find that group of women who are trekking through the same season of life as you; the days become more manageable. You feel like you can finally sigh a breath of relief.
A few years ago, when my son was born, we had just moved to Phoenix. I loved it there, but I worked from home and knew no one. Until we moved back to be closer to family in the Cincinnati area, I didn't realize how lonely I had really been. I was longing for my girlfriends, who were all 2,000 miles away.
While I'm lucky enough to be surrounded by women who are my support system today, I understand how many moms out there are dealing with the same thing I was a few years ago. So, this post is for you. I hope you'll take away a tip or two, put yourself out there, and find some other mamas you can start to call your friends. If you have anxiety about meeting new people, check out this post to help you get out of your comfort zone.
The opportunities are there
"Momming" can feel isolating, right? The good news is there are plenty of ways to change that. I asked a group I belong to how they found their mom friends and received over 50 responses! Some were the same and the typical places you would think, while others were ideas I've never heard of myself (but great ones at that).
Check out this list of 22 ways (plus two out of the box ideas) to meet mom friends. (Warning: you may have to get some courage and put yourself out there, but it will be worth it).
- Take a look at your local area's family magazines for mom groups and events. The mom who gave this idea said she was scared of meeting strangers, but now she's so glad she did.
- Getting involved with groups at your church or joining a bible study is an easy way to meet moms with similar beliefs and values.
- Join a book club at your local library or bookstore.
- If you homeschool your kids, make sure you find a group to join specifically to get homeschool ideas and attend events with your kids. You'll find like-minded moms in a group like this.
- Sign up to volunteer in your kid's classroom or the PTA. You might enjoy the moms who serve on the same committee as you.
- Meetup.com is a great way to join already established groups that have something in common with you. When I searched in my local area, there were groups specifically for moms/families, as well as niche interests like board games, running, and writing. You can even start your own Meetup group.
- Speaking of interests, get yourself a hobby. If you love taking pictures, join a photography class. If you are creative, take a class at Michaels or a workshop at Home Depot. Talk with other moms that are in the class and see what you have in common.
- If you're eligible for WIC, there are several support programs offered where you can meet other moms.
- When I had my son, the hospital had new mom support groups. If you're pregnant, or recently gave birth, check into groups like this at your hospital.
- There are Moms Club chapters all over the world, designed specifically for stay-at-home moms. Events are held during the day when SAHM's need the most support.
- If you're a Facebook member, most local areas have a community Facebook page. Some even have a group just for moms in the area. Start engaging on these pages and groups and attend events that are posted.
- Niche down on Facebook groups. For example, if you have twins, join a Moms of Multiples Facebook group. Then, post a comment asking if there are other moms in the group that live close to you.
- MOPS, which stands for Mothers of Preschoolers, is an organization that has events for expecting moms and those with infants, toddlers, and preschoolers. There are MOPS groups all over, so find one in your area. MOMSnext is for moms of school-age kids and M Collectives is an opportunity to join a small group of moms for topic-based, in-person discussions.
- Fit4Mom is a program that delivers fitness classes to moms. A lot of times you'll meet outside at a park for workouts and workout with other women looking to stay healthy during pregnancy, exercise with their kids or get their body back after having a baby.
- Merely going to the park can allow you to meet other moms. If your child starts playing with another little one, start a conversation with the mom and see where things go. Don't be afraid to ask for her number (kind of feels like dating, doesn't it?).
- Libraries have free storytime nearly every day. A lot of moms will always go on the same day of the week. Do the same thing, and get to know the moms you consistently see there. Ask if she would like to have a playdate at the park after storytime.
- If you're not into working out with your kids around, find a gym that allows you to drop them at the daycare area while you exercise. Join a few classes, and you'll find that the same moms typically show up week after week.
- Don't be shy to ask friends or family members if they know of moms you might enjoy. Sometimes just mentioning you're looking for more mom friends can get the ball rolling.
- The Peanut app is like Tinder for moms. It shows you moms with similar things in common and makes it easy to meet them.
- When it's nice outside, get out and say hi to the neighbors. Also, go on walks with your kids. One mom said, "Kids are the best...they are instant BFFs with every other kid they meet! I just tag along and sometimes make new mom friends."
- If your kids are old enough for sports teams and organized activities, meet moms of their teammates at practices and games.
Stories that ended in new mom friends
Here are two stories I love! They may seem a little unusual, but that’s what makes them fun!
- One mom I spoke to said she was selling some cloth diapers online and hit it off with the mom who bought them. The woman texted her later and said, "let's be friends!" How fun is that?!
- Ryan was struggling because her husband was out of town working a lot. She read the book Desperate: Hope for the Mom Who Needs to Breathe by Sally Clarkson and Sarah Mae, which helped her be intentional in making friends.
Ryan decided enough was enough, and she was ready for some friends! "I went on our neighborhood moms FB page and invited TOTAL STRANGERS to come over to my house EVERY week to watch... The Bachelor(ette). What started as 5-10 women coming over has now morphed into a whopping 42!!", she says. "I have four people each week sign up to bring snacks and drinks, I tuck my kids in, and press play on the TV. We start a little later so we can fast-forward through the commercials. It's amazing!! Out of that, my business has grown, I've found a ton of babysitters (moms pimping out their teens), and several have even started going to church with me, and we do Bible study together. Who knew?!?!!".
See, it is possible to find mom friends. Commit to putting yourself out there and realize how many other moms are in your same shoes. They're likely looking for you, too.
Do you have other ways to meet mom friends? Please leave a comment below or send me a note.
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