The ultimate guide to finding clarity so you can stop feeling stuck and find your purpose

finding purpose how to find clarity Jan 19, 2021
Woman who is grateful she has clarity and purpose

"Her clarity gave her purpose and her purpose gave her clarity"

- Jonathan Stroud

 

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This post will benefit you if you're feeling stuck and searching for clarity in your life. Whether it's what steps to take next or you're wanting to find your purpose, you'll gain must-have insight all about how to get clear on what's coming up for you.


 

 

 

 

You know you’ve hit the jackpot when you truly find your purpose and feelings of significance. And when you can take it one step further and actually pursue it, you’re headed for a life filled with pure joy. As Jack Canfield explains, we are all born with a unique purpose. The key to living a full life with happiness and abundance “is to discover that purpose and use it like a compass to guide you in the direction of your passions and dreams.”

 

 

While each of us has a purpose or a gift, for many it’s buried deep inside of us. The voice in our head, past events, relationships, and other outside influences have pushed our purpose so many levels down that we’re tricked into thinking it doesn’t exist. But you have the ability to find yours. With some digging, you are completely capable of getting there. 


 


So you don’t feel overwhelmed right off the bat, think less about your
life purpose and more about what your purpose is at this moment. After all, as your life evolves, your purpose and what makes you feel significant may as well. 

As for figuring out your current purpose, It all starts with gaining clarity about who you are and what you want. When you’re able to check that piece of the puzzle off the list, you’ll want to set some goals to begin to pursue your purpose. Finally, set the fireworks off because you’ll be one of the few people in the world who is actually living your purpose.

 

 


Sounds easy enough, right? In theory, it is. In reality, most people aren’t willing to go through the self-reflection and growth process to get really clear. They fantasize about goals and dreams but never see them through. Many people don’t even know what their dreams are. I agree with Hal Elrod in
The Miracle Morning when he says that, “sadly, so few people ever come close to living the life of their dreams that the phrase itself has become cliché.” 

Lacking clarity is a great way to remain stuck and I’m guessing you likely feel lost and trapped right now. According to The Chopra Center, confusion, distraction, and disorganization are the “three ingredients that make up the managerial part of mental life, which is a basic necessity.” Each one of these ingredients can be solved by finding clarity. And until that happens, our mind (and inner self) will feel unsettled.

But don’t fret quite yet. Dr. Amy Johnson says, “You have more clarity than you think. Being lost in your own personal thought is what produces the feeling of confusion.” So, let’s get you out of your own head and into your heart. Start digging and you will find clarity. Doing so will help you find your purpose, set goals, and ultimately pursue your purpose.

This is meant to be your one-stop-shop for all things clarity, so feel free to use the outline below and skip to the parts that you need help on now. Or, feel free to read the whole thing so you can become a clarity expert, transforming your life in the process!

  

FINDING CLARITY IN LIFE 

 

What is clarity?

When you do a search on Google for the definition of “clarity” a few different results are shown. From “the quality or state of being clear” brought to you by Merriam-Webster to “freedom from indistinctness or ambiguity” on Dictionary.com, even defining the word seems a bit complicated. 

So, when I saw that Yourdictionary.com defined clarity as “the quality or condition of being clear or easy to understand” I felt like we were getting closer. It seemed simple enough to understand. Speaking of simple, I believe the words clarity and simplify go hand in hand. 

Then, as I scrolled a little further I found the winner. Vocabulary.com is spot on. They simply say, “clarity means clearness”. Bam! That’s it. It makes so much sense and is easy to understand. Moving forward our definition for clarity will be “clearness”.

 

What is mental clarity?

While I like a nice diamond, that’s not the type of clarity we’re focusing on here. Instead, let’s discuss mental clarity. You know how sometimes you feel like you’re living in a fog? You can’t seem to concentrate, make decisions, or stop your mind from racing? All of those are the opposite of having mental clarity.

However, when the fog lifts, your mind is calm, and you feel empowered to make decisions you feel good about, you are experiencing mental clarity. It can be tough to get there, right? With so many distractions and stressors floating around us, our minds seem to be running full speed ahead at all times.

But gaining mental clarity is incredibly important—especially if you’re interested in finding your purpose or feeling significant. When all the junk is swarming around our head and consuming our thoughts, the last thing we’re able to do is to find our next path—our purpose. Instead, we pull ourselves in many different directions, and oddly enough, end up feeling stuck in a rut.

Even though it may feel like it, finding clarity doesn’t have to be so daunting. It’s actually fairly simple. 

 

 

 

Why is getting clarity in your life important?

Sure, the thought of getting really clear about your life sounds great, but there’s more to it than just finding your purpose. Here are more reasons to gain clarity:

  • Having clarity minimizes doubt and increases self-confidence.
  • Frustration ceases when you’re clear because you have less confusion.
  • It can help you learn your strengths and work on your weaknesses as you go through the self-reflection process to find clarity.
  • In order to set goals, create a plan, and take action—basically move forward in life—you need clarity.
  • You can make better (and faster) decisions that are aligned with your core values.
  • Clarity helps when you’re generally stuck in a rut or feeling stuck in life.
  • Happiness and joy are staples in your life when you have clarity.
  • Having clarity brings more energy and focus to your day.

 

“It’s a funny thing — it actually takes about the same amount of energy to sustain a mediocre life as it does to build an incredibly fulfilling one.”

- Anthony Moore

 

In which areas of life can you get clarity?

The answer to this question is really up to you. Most of us could use clarity in a few areas of our life. Remember this: finding your purpose is the ultimate goal, but gaining clarity in other areas that could lead to your life purpose is critical as well. 

It’s perfectly fine to start with one of these, get clear, and move on to the next. As you progress you’ll automatically be working on finding your purpose.

Here are some common areas where people need clarity:

CAREER

  • Should I change jobs?
  • Should I leave my job to stay at home with my kids?
  • Do I deserve a promotion?
  • Is this the right company for me?
  • Do I want to go in a completely different direction with my career?
  • Is the grass greener on the other side?
  • Do I want to work at home?
  • Do I want to start my own business? If so, what?
  • What am I meant to be doing?

 

RELATIONSHIPS

  • Do I want a relationship?
  • Am I in love?
  • Am I being treated fairly?
  • Is this friendship draining my energy?
  • Can this marriage be saved? Is it worth being saved?
  • Can I bring more spontaneity into my relationship?

 

FAMILY

  • Do I want a partner?
  • Do I want kids?
  • What are our family values?
  • How do I discipline my kids?
  • Do I have a purpose other than being a mom?

 

WHERE TO LIVE

  • Do I want to be close to my family?
  • Where do I feel happiest?
  • What kind of climate is best for me?
  • How much space do I need?
  • Do I want to live with someone?

 

FINANCES

  • How much money do I need to be comfortable? What does comfortable mean to me?
  • What does financial freedom mean to me?
  • Where does having money fall on my priority list?
  • How can I go about making more money?
  • How can I stop feeling stuck at my current income level?

 

HEALTH

  • When do I feel my healthiest?
  • Why am I overweight/underweight?
  • Do I need assistance with my health management?
  • Where does my health fall on my priority list?

 

How do you get clarity in your life?

One thing that’s worth pointing out is that the path that’s most clear on the outside is the one you’ll usually follow. However, it isn’t always the best choice. That’s why it’s critical that you do the work to get to the right path. It won’t always be the one that’s most obvious. This requires asking yourself the tough, thought-provoking questions and listening to your intuition (aka gut). Personal development writer, Anthony Moore, says to ask the uncommonly specific questions. Otherwise, you’ll end up going down the path of least resistance—the one that’s familiar—and no change will occur. You’ll remain feeling stuck.

The 4 things you need to get clarity

In this Fast Company article Justin Rosenstein says the main role of a leader is to provide clarity. While our focus is more on the individual (you) than a team, I still believe his point is relevant. After all, you are your own leader. 

Rosentein mentions three ways to achieve clarity. To summarize, he says there needs to be clarity around the what, how, and who. I agree, and think one more deserves to be added—the why. Without a why, the other three don’t really matter. 

Yes, I’m taking you back to the 5W’s (and 1H) from grade school. And don’t worry—I haven't forgotten about when and where—they’ll make an appearance shortly.

 

The Who?

The who is you, of course (not the band)! You’re the one looking for clarity, right? While other people such as a partner, colleague, mentor, etc. can be part of your journey toward getting clear, the responsibility actually lies in your hands. You have to do the work (#2-4 below) before clarity will appear.   

 

The What?

I’ll be honest, this is the big one. And it takes some work. Gaining total clarity means that you have arrived at the what

  • What is it that you really want?
  • What is your purpose?

 

The Why?

If you’re searching for what’s next or trying to find your purpose, you must figure out why. The why that you can immediately recite off the top of your head is likely not telling the full story. For example, if your what is “I want to lose weight” you may initially think your why is “because I want to fit into my clothes”. 

I would bet, though, that your why goes much deeper. Keep asking yourself why several times to identify what’s at your core. More on how to do this later.

 

The How?

Once you figure out your why, decide how you’re going to get there. This is where you get to create a plan, set goals, and achieve them. When and where come into play here as well.

 

Practices to help you get clear

Now that you know what you need to gain clarity, it’s time to actually go through the process. This is the fun, and sometimes scary, part. “We’re often closer to realizing what we want, but we aren’t always ready to see it,” says Forbes contributor and CEO of Acceleration Partners, Robert Glazer. 

Working through the different exercises below will help determine if you’re ready to actually gain clarity and stop feeling stuck. If you are, let the games begin!

 

Self-reflection and awareness

To start getting clear about who you are and what you want, try the following:

  • Ask yourself these questions and be honest about the answers
    • What do I feel unclear about?
    • What information do I need to help me get clear?

  • Understand your stressors 
    • Listen to your body. What is it telling you about your physical, mental, and emotional health?  Do you feel tired all the time?  Are you mostly happy?  Do you feel anxious?  When?

  • Get your thoughts on paper through journaling. This clears space to welcome clarity.
    • If you need a journal, check out this list of the best journals for beginners and pros (and all personality types).
    • Try a brain dump. Learn more from this article by Thomas Oppong on Medium. 
    • Use prompts to get start such as When do you feel most fulfilled? and Name 5 things you do well.

       

 

  • Dig deep for your why
    • As mentioned earlier, the first stab at your why is probably surface-level. To really get to your true why, keep asking yourself...well, why? Here’s how it works: 

      I’m considering changing careers

      • Why? Because I want to do something different
      • Why? Because I want to have more flexibility
      • Why? Because I’m sick of having no quality time with my family

    • Keep going down the Why? path until you believe you've exhausted all of them. In the example above this person's why went from, "I'm considering changing careers because I want to do something different" to "I'm considering changing careers because I'm sick of having no quality time with my family". And that was only going three levels deep!

    • The new why is way more meaningful, truthful, authentic, and real.  That's finding clarity.

  • What’s your heart telling you?
    • My path was not clear until I pondered this question. I remember my mindset coach asking me,  "What's your heart telling you?" In other words, she was asking what my innermost self wanted? I rolled my eyes and wondered how the hell I could figure that out.  But, to my surprise, when I sat with the thought (see Simply sit below) and got out of my own head, what my heart was trying to tell me became very clear.  That's why I ended up starting Mindset Mamas and now help driven moms leave unsatisfying jobs and start wildly fulfilling careers.

  • Write your vivid vision
    • This one is fun! Think about your life a year from now. What do you want it to look like? From work to personal travel and family experiences to money (and everything in between) picture your ideal life. Then, begin writing it all down. I prefer to write myself a letter as if it’s one year later. As you formulate your letter you’ll begin to get really clear on what you want in the next year.

    • Here is an example:

 

 

Unplug

Set technology aside and get back to your roots the simple way by trying these:

  • Simply sit
    • This exercise is so simple, yet poses some challenges for a lot of people. Have you ever just sat in one place for at least 30 minutes with no distractions? Simply sitting—sans the phone, TV, computer, other people, etc. is probably one of the fastest ways to get really clear. While it feels odd at first (and to some a waste of time), after about 10 minutes your mind starts to calm itself and creativity kicks in. My best ideas come from the time I spend Simply Sitting.

    • Try sitting for at least 10 minutes three times per week. Have only a notebook and pen next to you in case you have a brilliant idea come your way (which you probably will). Don’t force your mind to think about anything specific. Trust that it will take you in the direction you need to go.

  • Go on a vacation
    • Pulling yourself away from your day to day activities is an excellent way to gain clarity. Traveling opens up your mind to new possibilities and can inspire change. Just be sure to unplug from technology as much as possible. Focus less on posting your adventures on Instagram and more on the experience. Check out these top Momcation spots for those that need to rest in order to get clear.

  • Take a tech sabbatical
    • Could you do it? Taking a break from technology can be extremely rewarding. While this one is harder, if there is a way for you to turn off all devices, even for a short period of time, go for it. The clarity you will find is well worth the social media notification you’ll miss.

Take care of your mind and body

Calm yourself down and create space for clarity with these tools:

  • Exercise

    Exercise is essential to finding clarity in life. Think of it as sweating out everything that isn’t serving you. When you work out, your mind often wanders away from your worries and those “ah-ah” moments arrive.

    • My favorite way to exercise is with the Peloton app. My life changed when I discovered it because I could try so many different types of exercises, each of which does something different for both my mind and body. Clarity likes variety!

    • Body Boss is another program I believe to be a gamechanger. For those who need a consistent routine, Body Boss offers quick, powerful workouts for all levels. Because this program doesn’t take up much of your day, there’s more room to try the other practices mentioned in this article.

 

 

  • Nourish yourself

    Taking care of yourself inside and out allows clarity to seep in. That means everything from what you eat to what you put on your skin is important. Making yourself a priority tells your innermost self that you’re ready to get really clear on what’s next for you.

    • Noom is an app that promotes changing your behavior when it comes to your health. Since finding clarity and taking action starts with shifting behaviors, Noom is the perfect tool to use. You can take small steps toward big changes by becoming more aware about what you’re eating.

    • What you put on your skin matters, too. Clean products can help reduce that clarity fog discussed earlier. All-natural skincare company, Primally Pure, even offers a clarifying mask and serum for your face. Remember, finding clarity in life requires a holistic approach from the inside out.

  • Essential oils

    Essential oils help with so many things. Here are 3 of our favorites to help with mental clarity and focus: Adaptiv, Thinker, and Anchor.

  • Meditation

    All the hype is true. A significant amount of mental clarity comes through meditation. Staying quiet and releasing tension while meditating can open up a whole new world full of clarity in every aspect of your life.

    • The Peloton app mentioned above isn’t just great for exercise, but it also has a variety of guided meditations ranging from 5 minutes to 30 minutes.

    • Audible offers quick daily meditation opportunities as well.

  • Relax

    Finding different ways to incorporate relaxation into your day will help promote feelings of joy, gratitude, and overall well being. When your body and mind are both in this optimal state, creativity and clarity flow freely.

 

Take action

Sometimes all you need to find total clarity is to take action and move forward.

  • Try new things. Be willing to open yourself up to new experiences to see how they make you feel. If you think you want to become a teacher, try volunteering in a classroom for a few days and gain clarity on if it’s worth continuing to pursue.

  • Be courageous. Don’t dream about writing a book but then fall back on the excuse that you don’t have time. Find a few minutes each day to write a chapter. It will help you get clear on if you really want to write it.

Talk to your friends and family

It’s easy to lose ourselves when we’re feeling stuck. But those close to us haven’t lost sight of who we are.

  • Use those around you to help you remember who you really are. Remember, we find clarity inside, but a little help from the outside doesn’t hurt.

Finding clarity is one of the most rewarding experiences you can give yourself. And the best part is you can continue giving yourself the gift of clarity each time you feel a little lost. The experience can actually become fun and something you look forward to during times of uncertainty.

 

“Perhaps, It was me. I had lost myself in the middle of endless corporate meetings, discussions, seminars and fights. Amidst this strife, I had overlooked my passion, my zest, my deepest desire.”

-Shimpy on Medium

 

Finding clarity quotes to keep you inspired

  • "Everyone must have a voice, and everyone deserves clarity. " Kevin Plank
  • "Clear thinking requires courage rather than intelligence" - Thomas Szasz
  • "Clarity of mind means clarity of passion, too; this is why a great and clear mind loves ardently and sees distinctly what he loves." - Blaise Pascal
  • "More important than the quest for certainty is the quest for clarity" - Francois Gautier
  • "When things feel murky and unsure, fine-tuning our hearing so as to distinguish the voice of our Innermost Self brings clarity" - Kristi Bowman
  • "A 20/20 mindset produces clarity, joy, and peace in your life. It produces results." - Farshad Asi
  • "Her clarity gave her purpose and her purpose gave her clarity" - Jonathan Stroud
  • "There are few things more powerful than a life lived with passionate clarity" - Erwin McManus

 


 

Finding clarity affirmations to help you believe in yourself

  • I will be devoted to clearing my mind.
  • When my heart is clear I find clarity in my mind.
  • My inner voice is clear.
  • Clarity means peace for me.
  • I am clear about what’s next for me.
  • I get more clarity as each day passes.
  • I appreciate the clarity I gain when sitting with my thoughts.


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